I have recently doubled down on my one on ones, referrals and networking. Here are Twelve thoughts on takers and super connectors.
What do Kimberly Lloyd, Martin, Alfredo Parra, Armando Ramirez and Jeff have in common? They appear to be takers.
Are you a taker? Or are you a super-connector?
What is your why and reason for networking?
Takers are self-focused and put their own interests ahead of others’ needs. They try to gain as much as possible from their interactions while contributing as little as they can in return.
Since takers develop reputations for putting others last, matchers tend to return the favor and try to knock them down, research shows. That’s why takers rarely succeed in building strong relationships and networks.
Takers use the words “me” and “I” incessantly.
That’s not surprising. They all listen to the same radio station all day, so it’s no wonder they repeat what they hear. They all listen to WIIFM. What’s In It For ME?
Takers show up when there’s something in it for them.
Takers rarely reciprocate.
Takers don’t listen.
Takers seldom if ever contact me.
Takers are seldom satisfied with others.
What do Ronnie De Manna, Rudy Frederico, Mayan Coriso, Bob Grenchik and Sam Reed have in common? They are super-connectors.
I have learned being a super-connector starts with looking at my daily interactions through a different lens. Most people approach networking from the wrong angle. Rather than going into conversations thinking, “What’s in this for me?” I ask: “How can I make this person’s day better?”
I have also learned and practice: not just building up a roster of names; but more importantly building a mutually beneficial relationship that will last.
This is a skill that is hard to acquire, but once you do, you will have a skill set that will enable you to connect people who need to be connected. There is more to it than just knowing the right person; as a Super Connector, you also have a sincere desire to help your network — sometimes with no direct benefit to yourself.
The secret to being seen as a “connector,” is all about serving others and taking a Johnny Appleseed mentality to people where you reap what you sow.